Micchami Dukkadam
Micchami Dukkadam What a 72-hour fast during Paryushan is teaching me before I have even begun I can remember many of the people who have hurt me. Some moments remain surprisingly clear: the words that were used, the place where they were spoken, and sometimes even the expression on the other person's face. Hurt has an impressive memory. What is less clear is the effect I may have had on others. Not because those moments did not matter, but because we rarely experience ourselves as the person at fault in someone else's story. We live inside our own explanations, pressures and good intentions, and that makes it remarkably easy to misunderstand the harm we may have caused. Starting tomorrow, I am attempting a 72-hour fast during Paryushan. Even before it has begun, it has forced me to confront an uncomfortable possibility: perhaps the things I most need to give up are not on my plate. Perhaps they are the stories I tell myself about who was right, who was wrong, and why my own be...